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Tortured Bliss

Posted by savannahkase on May 27, 2017 in Lessons From Little Ones, Parenting, Personal, Second Child |

It is the best of times, it is the most exhausting of times. Those first few days and weeks home with a new baby are never quite the fairytale we anticipate, or that we see on diaper commercials. Even those of us who have been through it once – or twice – before suffer from “mother’s amnesia” when it comes to the tough stuff. As we unpack the boxes of baby clothes in the weeks leading up to our due date, we coo over the tiny socks and imagine the snuggly cuddles of the little being who will soon fill those footsie pajamas. However, we do not seem to remember how quickly that sock will lose its mate or how many times those pajamas will need to go through the wash after a pee/ poop/ spit up incident. Some things come back quickly, like how to use the bathroom with a small person in your arms, but others take time, like how to avoid being peed on during diaper changes.

For my family, the biggest surprise when our baby boy came home was how much he cried and how loud it was. For the first few days, my four-year-old kept saying over and over, “I just don’t understand how such a small person can make such a big noise.” My two-year-old puts her hands on her head and complains that her baby brother is hurting her ears. Trust me, I can relate. He is usually over my shoulder, screaming directly into my ear. I would swear my first two children didn’t cry this much, maybe because I was able to give them more attention so was more responsive to their needs, but it is equally possible that I’ve simply forgotten. I definitely forgot how anxiety-inducing a newborn’s pain cry can be. His little face scrunched up, his body contorted, makes him the image of innocent suffering. Even when his discomfort is only caused by congestion or gas, my inability to soothe him is sometimes more than I can bear. Occasionally, we both end up crying.

In addition to the usual challenges of having a new baby, there are also difficulties

Keep your germs off the baby!

that could not have been anticipated. The day after my son and I came home from the hospital, my two older children woke up with fevers above 103 degrees.  In the days that followed, my big kids wanted nothing more than to hug and touch their baby brother, so my husband and I had a full-time job trying to keep their germs away from our vulnerable new baby. I tell myself that we are all stronger, physically and emotionally, for having gotten through those tough first days as a family of five. Deep down, however, I suspect such challenges may be the rule, rather than the exception, in the coming year.

Despite the tears and tiredness, my month at home with my three children has been wonderful. I enjoy each of them so much and I’m very grateful for this quality time together. I am also incredibly thankful for the village of friends who have supported us as we adjust to life as a family of five. With my maternity leave half over already and “real life” looming on the horizon, I know I will need to continue practicing asking for help and leaning on those who offer a shoulder in the year to come. To muster the courage to do so, I look back on an affirmation I grew up with and which I still recite every year at Thanksgiving:

 Let us be grateful when we are able to give, for many do not have that privilege.

Let us be grateful for those who share their gifts with us, for we are enriched by their giving.

And let us be grateful even for our needs, so that we may learn from the generosity of others.

I am so thankful for this new little man in my life and in our family, and I am working on feeling gratitude for the opportunities for growth he presents.

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Always On My Mind

Posted by savannahkase on May 19, 2017 in Pregnancy, Research, Woman Power |

We have all heard of “pregnancy brain” and I’m pretty sure it’s been around since before there was science to confirm it. I can imagine ancient cave woman explaining to their partners that they forgot to tend to the fire because they were out hunting for herbs and it completely slipped their minds. Through my […]

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(Don’t) Grin and Bear It

Posted by savannahkase on April 4, 2017 in Personal, Pregnancy, Second Child, Working Mom |

They say third time’s the charm, but that hasn’t proven true for me.  I have written in the past how much I truly relish being pregnant.  With my first two children, I honestly dreaded the day they’d be born because I knew I would miss having them in my body.  I loved feeling them move, […]

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Home, Safe

Posted by savannahkase on March 7, 2017 in Parenting, Personal |

When I first arrived in South Africa in 2004, I refused to heed the safety warnings of friends and strangers.  Of course, I had been told repeatedly not to walk around by myself, but walking the five blocks from the University to my guest house through a residential neighborhood in broad daylight seemed perfectly safe […]

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Peace and Joy

Posted by savannahkase on December 30, 2016 in Lessons From Little Ones, Parenting, Personal, Work/Life Balance |

It is almost automatic to wish friends, family, even strangers “peace and joy” at this time of year.  These conditions (for they are more than fleeting emotions) are universally regarded as among the most desirable things in the world.  More than just a Hallmark greeting, even the Bible repeatedly refers to these as the ultimate […]

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Friendsgiving

Posted by savannahkase on December 26, 2016 in Advice, Personal, Research |

As with most things in my life, this post is late, but I still felt it was worth writing.  There are many, many things I love about living in Washington, D.C. (or, since we moved to the ‘burb last year, “the greater D.C. Metro area”).  On a fifth-grade field trip, I fell in love with […]

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Uphill Battle

Posted by savannahkase on October 24, 2016 in Lessons From Little Ones, Parenting, Personal, Second Child |

Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint (although it definitely feels like running at full speed most of the time!).  Even so, there are moments that stand out as being particularly difficult – like a steep hill around mile 19.  These “moments” can last for days, as in a painful new tooth or stomach bug, […]

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Not-So-Guilty Pleasures

Posted by savannahkase on September 22, 2016 in Personal, Work/Life Balance |

Forgive me, in advance, for this brief rant about my frustration with our American need to feel guilty about things that bring us pleasure.  I’m not talking about activities that could hurt yourself or someone else – adultery, violence, gossip, stalking, etc.  Rather, I mean those people who always say, “My Sunday evening bath is […]

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Breastfeeding as a Choice

Posted by savannahkase on August 27, 2016 in Uncategorized |

Last year, during National Breastfeeding Awareness Month, I wrote about the business case for supporting “nursing mothers” at work.  Two years before, just six months into my (now 3.5-year-long) journey in breastfeeding, I wrote that “[o]f all the new baby myths, one of the most harmful (in my opinion) is that breastfeeding is an easy […]

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Freedom From Fear

Posted by savannahkase on July 17, 2016 in Current Events, Parenting, Personal |

“[T]he advent of a world in which human beings shall enjoy freedom of speech and belief and freedom from fear and want has been proclaimed as the highest aspiration of the common people.” – Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), 1948 I have been thinking about this post for a long time.  I was going to […]

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